The arrival of a new baby is hard. Though the birth of a new baby is viewed as a wondrous occasion, for a few mums and dads this can lead to a really dark episode of melancholy and anxiousness. Suffering from postnatal depression can be very lonely and hard, as social expectations for new mums and dads to be pleased can weigh heavily.
Nevertheless, this issue is by no means unusual; between 10 – 15% of new parents are said to experience some type of despair. Seeing that new mothers and fathers who are troubled with this condition often don’t ask for help, the real numbers might well be much higher.
What are the indicators of post-natal depressive disorders?
Postnatal depression is like depression undergone at other times and for other reasons. The unique difficulties and stresses of becoming a parent, however, make it even more confusing, since you may not understand what is ‘normal’ or not, or if you’re just feeling over-tired from looking after your baby.
Some common signs and symptoms include:
- Unhappiness, low mood and/or tearfulness
- Fatigue and the lack of energy
- Getting cranky or easily angered
- Strange eating traits – This may either be feelings of increased hunger, ultimately causing overeating, or loss of interest in food.
- Absence of pleasure
- Lack of libido
- Becoming negative or guilt ridden
- Not wanting to spend time with friends or family
- Lack of desire
- Suicidal thoughts and feelings
Limited number of mothers and fathers may experience more serious symptoms, like hearing voices or generating strange beliefs
The benefits of hypnosis
Hypnosis for postnatal depression has shown to be a valuable approach for quite a few. Whilst medication can be helpful in the short term, the improvements they bring may well be limited. This might be simply because postnatal depression could be an extension of pre-existing depression, either experienced prior to pregnancy or during, or could be connected to a lack of support from loved ones, close friends or your other half, or other upsetting or unpleasant recent events in your life, like losing a job, death or divorce. This means that medication may only create benefits on the surface. Some people find support groups and/or some type of counselling or therapy to be the most reliable method for getting long-term improvements.
As a hypnotic approach works in concert with the unconscious, the hypnotherapist will have a better chance of unearthing the root cause of your depression. Many mothers and fathers feel weak about having these problems because they have a powerful picture in their mind of how they believe they should be reacting and feeling. For mothers who feel unable to spend time with their baby this may be particularly difficult, yet there is a cause somewhere, and it’s typically not necessarily the baby.
In fact, many underlying reasons can trigger postnatal depression, and each person’s experience is unique. By using a hypnotherapist, you can begin to ‘re-programme’ the mind, in a way specific to your needs, to free you from the despair, and to allow you to start to enjoy being a mum or dad.
Giselle Monbiot, a skilled hypnotherapist as well as a depression specialist, operating out of Kingston upon Thames, stated that “That as a mum of 3, I know how hard those first months can be. We live in a society where we are isolated from family members, and we often have high expectations of how something should be. It is so important to get the correct support from the right person. Post Natal depression isn’t something to be ashamed of. It is a sign you need some extra assistance through a very tough time.”
Giselle has practised in Kingston for over 5 years working from her rooms on Old London Road.